I haven’t been in a relationship since my freshman year in college. For 8 long years, I wasted my time dealing with dudes who I thought I could see myself dating. It wasn’t until this past year that I realized I’m missing the most important time of my life: BEING SINGLE! As women, we get caught up by the pressures that surround us. It’s always that family member asking you where your man is. Your timeline is flooded with engagements and people being booed up. I’m pretty sure being in a relationship is great, but being single is amazing! Being single is an important stage in your life and has many benefits. If you need a reminder of how dope your solo status can be, well get in formation:
Become a better you!
This time alone is valuable because you will start to learn a lot about your likes, dislikes, things you are passionate about, and much more. I believe it is crucial for everyone to know and love who they are so they won’t lose themselves when they get in a relationship. There is always room to grow, so take this time to be the best version for yourself.
Do not have to answer to anyone.
I love the fact that I can go anywhere and talk to anyone I want without explaining myself to someone. If I want to spend my Saturday in my pajamas eating pizza, drinking wine, and binge on The Walking Dead; that is what I’m going to do!
Travel more!
Don’t take this stage in your life for granted. Create you a bucket list of places you have always wanted to visit and start scratching them off the list. You have an advantage right now because you are not tied down to a family or significant other. You can just get up and go.
Start a new hobby.
You have all this extra time on your hands. Why not use it to your advantage? Find a hobby and stick to it. It could be volunteering, running, cooking, or learning how to play that dusty guitar that’s been sitting in your closet. Finding a new hobby will build your self-identity and help you establish your life without the need of a man.
Go on as many dates as you want with who you want.
One of the greatest things about being single is that if you go out on a date, you are not obligated to speak to that person anymore (unless you’re interested). I like the fact that I can still have male company with no strings attached.
Appreciate your time alone.
You don’t realize how much your space matters until you are in a relationship. Enjoy your time alone to meditate and have a quiet time. Moments like this will bring you positive vibes and peace, so when Mr. Right does come along he will complement your lifestyle rather than feeling like he is invading your privacy.
Save money!
I don’t know about you, but I can tell a lot about a person just by the way they handle their money. Even though you are not in a relationship, it doesn’t mean you can blow off your money on miscellaneous items. Use this time to improve your money management skills, learn about mutual funds, investments, and etc. Prepare yourself now so you will be ready to build your empire later.
You don’t have to share the bed.
This is self-explanatory. I mean…who doesn’t like all the extra arm and leg space?
You don ‘t need to consider someone else in your decision-making.
Meeting people half way, compromising, and having deep discussions is officially out the window. OF course there are benefits to being thoughtful and a good communicator, however, you do not have the obligation to think of anyone else. You have the freedom to live your life the way you want. Take advantage of it!
You’re waiting on Mr. Right!
I know you get tired of being asked, “Why are you still single?” “Why are you so picky?” or “Is something wrong with you?” Don’t let this discourage you. Being single is not a death sentence! You have put too much energy into embracing the benefits of the single life to settle for Mr. Wrong.